I don't think it is rude to cancel. It is your home. You did not invite them. It sounds to me like you have no real reason to see them or talk to them. Your time would be better spent finding out about the next ex-JW meetup. Time to move on and make new friends.
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Elder called last night and they are stopping by tonite for a 'visit'.......
by troubled mind insurprised me that he actually followed up on his word and called .
it will be strange after four yrs.
to have them in our house .my husband was not happy to hear it will be two brothers coming over, because he really does not want to feel we are being counseled .
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No I don't believe anyone here has been permanently warped by the Borg any more than your parents could do the same to you.
by gubberningbody inyou are who you are so much more due to your own peculiar genetic inheritance, and this is what eventually prevails.. there was a longitudinal study i read a number of years ago that tested the idea that we all have inborn "happiness setpoints".
these people in the study were followed through 20-25 years and periodically examined as regards their self-reported measures of happiness.
the finding was that no matter what happened either positively or negatively in their lives, within 8-12 weeks they were universally back to their baseline.. this means a couple of things:.
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Yes, genes are important, but they need to be put in their place like she says.
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Were you Stalked or Chased After Once you Exited the JW's by Elders ?
by flipper ini tried to fade off the map by moving 30 miles initially in 2004 after i exited in late 2003 .
the first several years they didn't bother me.
i ran into a elder from my former congregation in late 2005 in an antique store - he tried telling me i was wrong for stopping attending meetings.
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Unbelievable! They are a bunch of sickos! And they are all obsesses with sex and the sex lives of everybody else!
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If someone is benefitting from being in a cult, should we leave them there?
by Confuzzled inif scientology has narcanon, and it has gotten people off drugs (although that 85% sucess rate they say they have is suspect), and becoming a jw sorta forces you into line, would it make sense to leave someone in if they were helping them?
if you knew somebody was a drunk, sex addict, drug addict, what have you, and they were studying, and it appeared that they were actually being helped (albeit by twisted means) would you leave them be?
like, if uncle jim was a fall down drunk that ran around on his wife, then someone introduced him to the wts, and it all stopped, would you still try and expose the cult even if they were actually helping and it was working?.
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Even with the blood issue, they would die feeling that they have been faithful to Jehovah and they will have died in peace. I really feel that way about it and I am someone that HATES JWs. But I also feel if someone is a devout JW and has no doubts about any of it and the refusal of blood is important to the practice of their faith, then that's their decision.
When it comes to children, I feel differently.
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What's a really good movie you'd recommend that most people probably haven't seen?
by A.Fenderson inwhat's a really good movie you'd recommend that most people probably haven't seen?.
my personal recommendation: synecdoche, new york.
it's one of those movies that words fail utterly to capture--which really is the hallmark of a good movie, i suppose.
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I agree that Der Untergang is a great movie. I own it and have watched it several times.
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If someone is benefitting from being in a cult, should we leave them there?
by Confuzzled inif scientology has narcanon, and it has gotten people off drugs (although that 85% sucess rate they say they have is suspect), and becoming a jw sorta forces you into line, would it make sense to leave someone in if they were helping them?
if you knew somebody was a drunk, sex addict, drug addict, what have you, and they were studying, and it appeared that they were actually being helped (albeit by twisted means) would you leave them be?
like, if uncle jim was a fall down drunk that ran around on his wife, then someone introduced him to the wts, and it all stopped, would you still try and expose the cult even if they were actually helping and it was working?.
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You cannot remove somebody from a cult unless they want to leave on some level. It's the same with alcohol and drug addiction. The main motivation has to come from the addicted person. Otherwise, it's a waste of time.
I agree that the elderly who have spent a lifetime IN and have no family and no place to go should be left alone in their fantasy world.
I also agree with Steve Hassan that about 5% of cult members need the cult in order to function. But that would include the elderly and sick as well as the mentally ill that need to be told what to do and need tremendous structure in their lives.
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What's a really good movie you'd recommend that most people probably haven't seen?
by A.Fenderson inwhat's a really good movie you'd recommend that most people probably haven't seen?.
my personal recommendation: synecdoche, new york.
it's one of those movies that words fail utterly to capture--which really is the hallmark of a good movie, i suppose.
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I like Sky Captain and the World of Tomorrow also. Jude Law is gorgeous.
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Few brothers or sisters to choose from
by dgp inon the basis of two previous threads (http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/191790/2/ugly-sisters, and .
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/191797/1/ugly-brothers.
a question popped into my mind.
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Yes, I felt that any "suitable males" for dating were very limited. And I knew this from a young age. Probably about 13. I felt that if I wanted to get married I better start looking for somebody right then.
Yes, I felt that if I stayed a JW I would have to "settle" for someone that fit the criteria.
Yes, there was a feeling that it didn't really matter who you married as long as he was "strong in the Truth".
This was definitely one of the factors in my decision to get the hell out as a teenager. I saw no future for myself as a JW.
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Ugly brothers?
by dgp into respond to serenity now's question on another thread (http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/191790/2/ugly-sisters, let me start this thread about ugly brothers in congregations.
women, speak freely if you will.
were there any hot men in your congregations, i mean, men you wouldn't think twice about marrying?
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There was not one young male in the JWs that I would have considered dating. But mostly I was turned off by the cult itself. I didn't want any part of a JW relationship.
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Memorial Attendance: "What's Going On?"
by sweet pea inspoke to my dad today who attended the beckenham (london/kent) congregation's memorial - he said that for the first time the attendance was seriously down - 203 as opposed to last year's 250 and that penge (congregation that shares the hall) had a similar experience.
it's called the internet dad.. can we have a roll call of numbers from those that attended please?
(or if it's been covered already, a link?).
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Glad to hear that Memorial attendance may be down and WELCOME ALL NEWBIES!